There have been several artilces about the economy causing more contested probate cases. Here’s one and here’s another.
I disagree that the recession is causing more cases. I have long thought that it is the changing make-up of the family that causes families to fight over family assets. In the past, mom would marry dad. They would have children. They would die and the children, all brothers and sisters, would settle the estates with very little arguing.
Today, that situation is the exception rather than the rule. Now, mom marries dad. They have children. They get divorced. Dad remarries and has children with the new wife. Mom remarries a man who has children by another woman. Instead of brothers and sisters settling the estates, it is brothers, step brothers, half sisters and ex-spouses. Today’s family doesn’t have that blood bond that they had in the past. Their loyalties may go in many different directions.
Many times, a person doesn’t want to make a will because he or she has these extended families and doesn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. They may be closer to a step child than they are to their own children. The effect of not making a will is to hurt everyone’s feelings. When there is no will, there can be a free-for-all battle over the estate. Everyone involved can end up hating everyone else.
Just as only grandma or grandpa can get the family to together for thanksgiving, they are the only ones who can hold the family together after their deaths by having a will so there will be no fighting. While there can still be a fight over assets if there is a will, a fight is almost guaranteed if there is no will.
We don’t prepare wills so this is not a plea to come in and hire us to make you a will. Rather, it is a plea to make less work for me by avoiding a contested probate case by making a will and keeping it up to date.
There have been several artilces about the economy causing more contested probate cases. Here’s one and here’s another.
I disagree that the recession is causing more cases. I have long thought that it is the changing make-up of the family that causes families to fight over family assets. In the past, mom would marry dad. They would have children. They would die and the children, all brothers and sisters, would settle the estates with very little arguing.
Today, that situation is the exception rather than the rule. Now, mom marries dad. They have children. They get divorced. Dad remarries and has children with the new wife. Mom remarries a man who has children by another woman. Instead of brothers and sisters settling the estates, it is brothers, step brothers, half sisters and ex-spouses. Today’s family doesn’t have that blood bond that they had in the past. Their loyalties may go in many different directions.
Many times, a person doesn’t want to make a will because he or she has these extended families and doesn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. They may be closer to a step child than they are to their own children. The effect of not making a will is to hurt everyone’s feelings. When there is no will, there can be a free-for-all battle over the estate. Everyone involved can end up hating everyone else.
Just as only grandma or grandpa can get the family together for thanksgiving, they are the only ones who can hold the family together after their deaths by having a will so there will be no fighting. While there can still be a fight over assets if there is a will, a fight is almost guaranteed if there is no will. Trying to make your own will leads to disasters in these situations. I think that it is rare for a person to try to make their own will without making mistakes. Since wills have to me made and executed within strict guidelines, you should always let an attorney handle the will preparation.
We don’t prepare wills so this is not a plea to come in and hire us to make you a will. Rather, it is a plea to make less work for us by avoiding a contested probate case. Make a will and keep it up to date!